Autism Awareness Month and Mother's Day
Saturday, May 12, 2012 at 10:10AM Actually, it is neither. April was Autism Awareness Month. I said nothing then. Mostly because there seemed no point in sharing annoyance. Don't get me wrong. Having a 37 year old son with autism has its challenges and certainly there is need for better understanding. Plus there is still more than a little prejudice against people with disabilities, particularly in the workplace. Why annoyed? Autism is mysterious stuff. It was mysterious when it was rare and remains mysterious now that it is an "epidemic". What comes with the mystery is a never ending supply of research and "discoveries" based upon very small samples. Some of this is good science but very preliminary. Some of it is hokum. Some is well reported. Often the reporting is comically bad. Last month we watched an interview with a "science" reporter on a story that autism was caused by fat mothers. Yep. This guy (really good hair) spouted a flurry of statistics - 80% of mothers of autistic children were not fat, 30% of the general population was fat, children of fat mothers in the study were 60% more likely to have autism. We all thought gibberish like this died with Gabby Hayes and the "code of the west.". He ended the piece with saying the data was not conclusive but that fat mothers should lose weight even though it was difficult. I am not making this up.
Tomorrow is Mother's Day. My son Isaac does not perceive time continuously as most of us do. For him time is a sequence of discrete events. Mother's Day 2011 is "one" away from Mother's Day 2012 the same way May 13, 2012 is "one" away from May 12 2012. He also does not distinguish between what he knows and what he believes everyone else knows. He thinks that every Mother's Day should be the same. Same people at dinner. Same food. Same presents. He also has no concept of surprise. Since everyone knows that Isaac and Dad buy flowers for Mom on for Mother's Day (at the same florist every year), Mom knows what she will get.
On Tuesday I pick Isaac up for music and he asks when we are going to pick up the flowers. "Isaac, let's buy a different present" "Dad says a different present" "No, Isaac does" "Buy mom pen and paper". This is a great idea. I look up a stationary shop and after music he and buy some really beautiful paper and envelopes that we hide in the back of my car. I rehearse with him "Will you tell mom about the paper?" "No""Will you tell mom about the paper?" "No".
Next morning he makes his daily call to his mom. She gets off the phone and asks me why I have note cards hidden in my car.
Autism Awareness Month,
Mother's Day 










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